Courtship is not marriage. So under certain extreme circumstances (e.g. the man persistently demanding sex or being a liar, etc) it can be broken. Being consistently strong-willed, stubborn etc can destroy your courtship because even if the partners succeed in getting married, they usually do so in haste and they distrust each other forever.
Christian ladies should watch the way they dress and carry themselves along. Seductive mannerisms, far from being indicative of feminine charm, constitute blatant sin, which God will punish.
“And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot and a crafty heart. She was loud and rebellious; her feet would not stay at home at time she was outside, at times in the open square, Lurking at every corner. So she caught him and kissed him with an impudent face she said to him: I have peace offerings with me; today I have my vows…..”. She has cast down many wounded; and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.” (Prov. 7:10-14, 26-27)
Parents, elders and marriage counsellors must instruct their wards on how to conduct themselves during courting.
Remember that the God you call Father does not take cases of sexual immorality kindly. He displays them as sensational news headlines e.g. the Diana/Shechem rape episode, David/Bathsheba adulterous affair, the Judah/Tamar transaction, and Amnon/Tamar drama.
Remember also that holiness is always a choice. Both Joseph and Amnon got locked up alone in bedrooms with women but Joseph chose not to sin against God. God vindicated him after many years by rewarding him with the post of Prime Minister in a foreign land. The other, who thought he was being smart, met his untimely death soon afterwards. Personally decide and choose not to sin against God during your period of courtship.
We live in a sex-soaked society where, from books to TV and movies, from music to the Internet, the youth are bombarded with sex constantly. Many brethren commit the act, get pregnant and abort. Then they fast and claim forgiveness from a God who may well be different from the God of David and Bathsheba.
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” Gal. 6:7
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