The following are suggestions to follow during courtship:
1. Make every attempt to know your spouse’s character and do not hide your habits from each other. Encourage each other’s strengths and correct your faults in the proper spirit.
2. Go to places together: church services, prayer meetings, conferences, camps, etc.
3. Exchange letters and notes.
4. Exchange visits. Get to know each other’s family and acquaintances.
5. Discuss your callings, gifts, talents, and ministry plans.
6. List, discuss and examine your interests, likes and dislikes, similarities and differences.
7. Find out about each other’s background: education, tribe, family tree, personal sickness, blood groups, etc.
8. Be honest about personal details of your life and family that you know will hurt your partner when discovered after marriage.
9. Compare your expectations in marriage; your perception of responsibilities as husband and wife, fatherhood and motherhood. What parts are you prepared to play?
10. Discuss you careers/professions/vocations and prospects for the future.
11. Discuss your faiths, beliefs and convictions. What do you agree and disagree on and why?
12. Discuss your expectations of each other’s roles as husband/wife.
13. Be observant to notice and question all events, actions etc. that do not conform to your expectation.
14. Make time for counselling. Determine to finish the counselling sessions.
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